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You ever just wake up and get all, “MAN I WANNA YELL AT SOMEONE ON THE INTERNET WITHOUT THEM KNOWING WHO I AM!” …Yeah, me neither :/
If I did I’d at least not go argue over someone’s lackluster personal life, I’d go with something more concrete like the chicken or the egg coming first. It’s the egg, but I digress.
Anonymous asked: Nothing regarding my previous statements as you are finished with that, but I just want to let you know that all the points you accused me of as being abhorrently criminal tactics (like not reading properly), which are the ones that fuel your hatred currently, are ones you yourself committed and proved so excessively in the last post. At least I can say that I didn't resort to childish name calling. You should refrain from that; it immediately discredits anything you say.
I said GOOD DAY.
alexjaded replied to your post:alexjaded replied to your post:In my experience,…
The anon! Like, everything you’re saying makes complete and total sense and the anon just wants to like..wave their dick around.
I was just making sure. And I’m glad what I answered was clear for someone. I just think they wanted an argument for arguments sake, which is kind of sad, really.
And now we can go back to our regularly scheduled programming.
Anonymous asked: In its colloquial form, you're textbook in that your fear and your thoughts on why you're single are common and not at all unique. You are bunched in with a group of people who believe the problem lies outside of themselves because that's how you deal with the fear. I thought the exact same way you did, to a t, about 8 years ago. I put blame externally until I realized, after 3 years, that the problem was internal. Don't take my advice, play the "you dont know me" card, that's your choice.
I never said that the problem wasn’t partially on me, you just enjoy twisting words in order to be antagonistic for your own enjoyment, clearly you don’t know me, that’s a fact it isn’t something I’m pulling out of my ass as a defense mechanism Like you clearly think.
you’re advice is to just seek rejection because eventually it will work, that’s about the only thing you’ve actually said besides lambasting my choice of words and coming back with some misinterpretation of nearly everything I’m saying because you clearly aren’t really reading what I’m writing because your head is shoved so far up your own ass at this point.
Anonymous asked: I have to make assumptions because you purposefully left a lot blank. Maybe you're shy, maybe you're embarrassed, but I think you keep it vague so that people stay on your side. If you tell them too much, they might disagree and push you to ask people out, and your fear holds you back. No, I don't know you. But so far, based on what you do on here and what you've said, you are extremely textbook. (I've also talked about religion/marriage with platonic friendships. It's not a big deal)
No I purposefully left it vague because I’m not going to divulge my entire personal history online, let alone to someone on anon who knows absolutely nothing about me. If anyone has followed me for any length of time on here then most of that is common knowledge to those who care anyway.
as for being textbook I don’t know what textbook you’re reading but, it doesn’t sound like there’s much substance in there. And I’ve talked about marriage and religion with platonic friends too, however, those circumstances in which they are brought up tend to be different.
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dude, wtf. aggressive much?
me or the anon? Because I’m trying to maintain some level of decorum here.
Anonymous asked: Honestly, it sounds like you made a big deal out of nothing. There are no topics that are specifically designated "potential relationship talk" and "non-potential relationship talk". It might be for you, but unless she knows that, it could be a normal conversation for her. I'm just letting you know all this because I've met guys like you and they only stop waiting around when they wait around for this great girl, and lose her because they failed to make a move. Then they regret it forever.
Guys like me? Now you’re making assumptions About me which I can assure you that you know nothing about me.
But, again I don’t think talking about marriage and my future kids religion is normal. I’m not saying there are… how did you put it? Designated “relationship” and “non-relationship” topics but, topics like that is not something people normally discuss without motive. Hell those are topics engaged couples haven’t discussed yet, but I was just using those as examples. You decided to run with it to get your point across.
Anonymous asked: In my experience, if you do stuff with a girl and her excuse for not going further is one you listed, then she means the opposite of what she said. They do want a committed relationship, just not with you. And yea, some of them will manipulate you (willingly or unwillingly). It sucks but you move on. It may not be dating, but in the same way it is a learning process. And if initiative isn't the plan, what is? Wait quietly until a girl miraculously predicts that you're her dream guy?
Well clearly they didn’t want to be in a relationship with me, because I’d probably still be dating that person, but again I wouldn’t have done some things if I had known they did not share similar intentions, but that’s difficult when you have discussions about marriage, not specifically with them but the idea of it and what religion I’d want my kids to be and things like that which are not particularly light conversations to have with a random individual that there is no future with, at least I wouldn’t have those conversations if I had little intent to go any further.
at this point the whole waiting around thing sounds far less exhausting albeit completely ineffective.
Anonymous asked: I understand the fear. Every girl I've ever asked has rejected me. However, it does not diminish my resolve to find someone because in the end, the failures don't matter when you eventually end up succeeding. If you focus on the negative, you will not get anything positive. So how many girls have you asked out? What is this sample size? I know sometimes you'll get girls who aren't looking. The excuses you mentioned are women who didn't like you, not necessarily ones who aren't looking.
I will say that those specific examples, if they just didn’t like me, are probably poor considering I didn’t just talk with them (I’ll leave interpretation vague) and I know sex and stuff does not imply “feelings” and stuff like that, just scroll through tumblr to see that enough, but that doesn’t change that certain things I wouldn’t do unless I like the person which of course isn’t necessarily everyone else’s thought process in such things.
I dont care if someone doesn’t like me if I like them, that happens, but there are certain lines that I wouldn’t cross, so to speak, if I knew that a potential relationship was a dead end, because ultimately a relationship is my goal not just hooking up with someone and that has been used to manipulate me emotionally speaking so again trust issues.
as for how many times I’ve been rejected? I can think of at least 8, probably 10.
Anonymous asked: No, they are the ones missing out! Dating is about getting to know another person. Not about rushing into commitment, you've got it right. Don't give up!
thats what I’d like to think dating is, but some people just have it differently.
Anonymous asked: well that is very mature, those people are missing out!
Thanks, either they are missing out or I’m just missing entirely.